"A bishop must be ... the husband of one wife." Apparently, it's OK for laymen to have
several. 3:2
You should help a widow only if she:
Has no living children or nephews
Is desolate, trusts in God, and prays all the time
Is not living in pleasure (a widow living in pleasure is the living dead)
Is over 60 years old
Had only one husband
Has raised children
Has lodged strangers
Has washed the saints' feet
Has relieved the afflicted
Has diligently followed every good work
Never help a young widow (one under 60 years old). When they wax wanton against Christ, they'll get
married, and be damned to hell for rejecting their faith. Besides, young widows are idle busybodies, wandering around from house to house saying
things they shouldn't say. They should get married and have children (though
they'll be damned to hell for it). Heck, some of them have already turned aside after Satan. 5:11-15